What I Wear When I’m the One Holding Everything Together
There is a particular kind of woman who gets dressed in the morning with everyone else in mind. She checks the weather for the kids. She thinks about whether she…
Journal
What She’s Really Wearing on Her Best Average Tuesday
Nobody talks about the best average Tuesday. We talk about the best day ever. The milestone. The vacation. The occasion that gets the good outfit and the good photos and…
Soft Fabrics, Hard Days, No Pretending
Some days are just hard. Not dramatically hard. Not crisis hard. Just the regular, unglamorous, nobody-is-going-to-write-a-memoir-about-this kind of hard that is actually most of life when you’re paying honest attention…
What Happens When the Plan Falls Apart (And You Don’t)
I was a planner. Past tense intentional — not because I’ve stopped planning entirely, but because the version of me that existed before the diagnosis had a relationship with plans…
The Shirt That Started a Conversation I Didn’t Know I Needed
It happened in a grocery store. I was wearing a shirt — one of the early basically fine designs, nothing elaborate, just the words across the chest in clean type…
On Wearing Your Feelings Without Explaining Them
I used to over-explain everything. Not just the big things — the diagnosis, the timeline, the detour. Everything. The small things too. The opinion I had about something. The choice…
